I am writing this morning to push across to all fathers what could be viewed as a personal stand and experiences of what disrupts the essence of fatherhood.
There exist a lacuna between being a husband and a father, although there is thin line between the two.
While many are husbands, it is only few that are fathers.
Fatherhood starts with being a husband to a wife and it extends to when conception occurred and the marriage is blessed with children.
Fatherhood is simply being a role model in the confines of your home to your wife,family,your children and the entire society.
In essence,Fatherhood is all about responsibility that is needed in the secular and in the spiritual.
It entails being a defense to everyone around you and it is a position of authority recognized by God and the host of heaven.
No one should assume the roles and responsibilities of Fatherhood as rosy in any form.It entails deep personal decision that must be about selflessness and being sacrificial in ensuring that needed responsibilities are met at the needed time and space.
Besides all these,my personal experiences about fatherhood have been all encompassing having the sweet side of it and the sour side of it but it was not sad.
I have lived to understand that being masculine does not guarantee being a successful father. I have seen women that are fathers around me too.
I have lived to understand that being masculine does not guarantee being a successful fathers.I have seen women that are fathers around me of which mine is not an exception.
One thing that I experienced that it is quite potent to cause the disruption of the essence of what fatherhood entails from being achieved is Polygamy.
While some people have a successful experience with polygamy but the majority that I have seen or heard about are acidic to the concept of fatherhood.
While you have decided to be a responsible father,the thought of another woman or side chick might destroy your decision to being a good father.




Polygamy might not affects your wife alone but it has a way of replacing you and turning your wife to a father and a mother at the same time.
Polygamy destroys vision and it is one of the potent distractions that makes the joy of marriage to fizzle out flying away with the beauty expected to be the order of the day in such marriage.
Polygamy attracts and establishes confusion and it breeds a kind of toxic relationship that could be seen and submitted as a destroyer that humanity is trying to cope with till now.
The story of Abraham ,Sarah and Haggai points to this.
On this note, celebrating Fathers’ Day today will be incomplete without me telling you that you should not turn your wife to a Father in any way because tomorrow might be too late to correct your mistake or overlook.
The thought of another woman in your heart no matter how tiny it is might destroy you as a father.
One thing I cannot fathom is my struggle writing today even though it is fathers’ day but it has been rosy writing smoothly on mothers’day but the little I wrote is out of my struggle to write.
Don’t get offended with it.
Learn from it.
It is part of what I know practically.
SEX outside marriage is evil.


©mlst communications 2019.


14 soldiers court -martialed by Nigeria Army.

One major, two captains, two staff sergeants and one sergeant are among 14 soldiers arraigned before a seven-member court martial over their alleged involvement in murder, kidnapping and other offences.
The General Officer Commanding, 6 Division, Maj. Gen. Jamil Sarham, disclosed this on Saturday during the inauguration of the General Court Martial at the Army Division in Port Harcourt Rivers State.
Sarham listed other offences of the accused persons as attempted murder, desertion, crime in relation to public and services property, disobedience to standing orders and conducts prejudice to service discipline.
He stated that the court martial remained one of the apparatus used by the Nigerian Armed Forces to discipline erring personnel.


Sarham, who is also the Land Component Commander, Operation Delta Safe, said, “The Nigerian Army is a creation of the Nigerian Constitution to carry out specific tasks to support the government effort in providing security for the Nigerian nation.
“To achieve this, a discipline and professional Armed Forces is imperative and this in line with the Chief of Army Staff’s vision to have a professionally responsive Nigerian Army in the discharge of its constitutional roles.
“There is no gainsaying that unless such a body of professionals is disciplined, achieving victory in battle and other specified assignments would not be easy.’’


He added that Section 131 of the Armed Forces Act conferred on him the powers to convene the General Court Martial and try the accused persons who allegedly violated some codes guiding the army’s professional conduct.
He said, “We have a total of 14 accused persons; three officers and 11 soldiers. Among them is one major, two captains, two staff sergeants and one sergeant and others.”
Sarham explained that the accused persons had earlier been thoroughly investigated to ensure that no innocent person was wrongly tried and punished, promising that justice would be done in all the cases.
Sarham further said, “Trial is not only aimed at seeing that offenders are punished, but to serve as deterrent to others to prevent future occurrence. I must state clearly that the accused persons are presumed innocent of the offences charged against them until proven guilty by this court.”
The President of the Court Martial, Brigadier Bassey Etuk, promised that the court martial would ensure that justice prevailed.
Etuk stated, “I want to assure you (Sarham) that based on the confidence you repose in me, we will do justice.”